I so love when he calls. He loves to take care of me. It is so great. He loves me and wants to always take care of me. There is something about it that is such a turn on. I love it.

Lifestyler

A person who lives a lifestyle that supports rather than conflicts with his SM fantasy archetype. Some lifestylers object to the characterization of their SM identities as fantasy role play, feeling that it is integral to their personalities rather than a sexual game. It is easy, and often attractive, to confuse reality and fantasy

Conditioning

The term used in psychology for the deliberate process of creating a psychological link between a desired response and an unrelated stimulus. Much of what people in the SM community refer to as training or slave training uses classic conditioning techniques.

Phone Sex Role Play

This is great fun for long distant relationships or when you are unable to see each other as much as you would like. Some may find it a little harder to get in to over the phone, as they are unable to always gauge the reaction of the receiver. A sneaky drink can assist with helping you let go of your inhibitions and just get on with it. If either of you are good at accents pick a character like a sexy Russian prostitute or a sizzling Italian siren. Seduce him with the magical sounds of your voice, and let the phone sex role play begin